我们继续来思考诗人在言语上的节制、不把自己的疑惑告诉别人的行为。我认为我们有必要在这一点上作进一步的探讨。我们以前说过基督徒不应该伪装，无论是担忧、贪婪、怨恨、憎恨，我们在任何时候都要承认自己是谁。完全向自己以及向神承认我们的愤怒、担心或充满疑惑都并不是罪，但是我们若不断的专注它，容许它令我们去到绝望的境地，那就成了罪。

但这是否表示，为了要有情感上的健康我们必须把自己真实的感受告诉所有的人呢？答案显然是「不」，不过这个答案也必须有限制。例如：在向辅导员或牧者寻求帮助时，说出自己内心的真实感受是正确的。对于这方面，我认为我们应当采纳的原则是：只有当我们的情绪符合神的计划的时候，我们才可以表达内心的真感受。

这是很重要的一点，也是我们必须清楚明白的。对压抑的治疗不是「让一切都发泄出来」，而是要有正确的选择性，就是只表达那些会符合神的旨意的情绪。我们必须坦白的向自己和向神承认自己所遇到的境况，然后必须小心地考虑与别人说出内心的感受是否正确、是否配合神的目的。

We continue thinking about the psalmist's decision to take himself in hand and refrain from relaying his doubts to others. I feel it important at this point to say a further word about repression and expression. Christians, we said earlier, are never to pretend about anything. Whether we worry, covet, resent, hate, we are to acknowledge the reality of who we are at any given moment. Fully admitting to ourselves and to God that we are angry, worried or full of doubts, is not sin. It becomes sin when we constantly focus on it and allow it to drag us down into despair.

But does this mean that in order to experience emotional health we must let everything out and tell everybody exactly how we feel? The clear answer to that question is "No", but it is an answer that must be qualified. For example, when seeking help from a counsellor or minister, it would be right to share exactly how you feel. The principle I suggest we adopt in relation to this is as follows: we may express our acknowledged emotions only when such expression is consistent with God's purposes

This is a critical point and it must be understood. The cure for repression is not to "let it all hang out" but to be selective, expressing only those emotions that are in harmony with God's will. We must freely admit to ourselves and to God what is happening to us, but then we must carefully and selectively consider whether it is right and in line with God's purposes to share what we feel with others.