相信你现在已明白，为甚么根据神的公义来画下我们的「底线」是那么困难的一回事了。那是因为我们总是关心自己怎样被得罪，更多于我们怎样得罪了神。心理学家克莱布（Larry Crabb）说：「若是只聚焦于伤害，我们就会培养出索取的心灵。」从而便会对神说：「主啊，请您开始公平地行动吧，在我们敌人面前保护我。」不过，一旦放弃索取的态度，我们就必须无言的接受别人的任意对待，专心仰望神会按祂自己的方法去对付他们。我们真可以接受这种不加以反抗的态度吗？

我的意思不是说受到严重的身体伤害或性侵犯的人不应该报警，我所提到的是别人无情的语言或行动给我们的心灵所造成的伤害。要是我们专注于别人对我们所犯的罪，我们就很难能够不叛逆神，因为在考虑到我们怎样受伤的时候，我们会要求一种合理的调整。但是如果我们专心思考我们怎样伤害了神，以及怎样以自我中心，以及拒绝相信祂的能力和爱而继续伤害祂的时候，我们那叛逆的灵便会自行消除。这样，别人对我们所做的，与我们对神所做的相比起来，便显得微不足道了。我们的视角会因此得到纠正，我们更能够看到事情普遍性的合理，以永恒的公义来作为「底线」。

Can you see now why it is so hard to draw the "bottom line" concerning God in terms of His justice? We feel much more passionate about how we have been sinned against than how we sin against Him. "To dwell only on the fact that we have been victimised," says psychologist Larry Crabb, "is to develop a demanding spirit." We tend then to say to God: "Come on Lord, start acting justly and defend me against my adversaries." Once we give up our demandingness, however, we are at the mercy of other people and have to go through life trusting God to deal with them on His terms. Can we handle that kind of vulnerability?

I am not suggesting, by the way, that people who experience serious physical or sexual abuse should not report it to the authorities. What I have in mind as I write is the kind of situation when someone wounds our spirit by an insensitive word or action. When we focus on the sins of others toward ourselves it becomes hard to give up our rebellion against God, because, in the light of how we are hurting, we see it as justified. But when we focus on how much we have hurt Him, and how we continue to hurt Him by our self-centredness and our refusal to trust His power and love, our rebellious spirit dissolves of its own accord. Then what others have done to us seems of much lesser significance than what we have done to Him. Our perspectives are corrected and we are more ready to recognise the universal rightness of things and make eternal justice the "bottom line".