相信你現在已明白，為甚麼根據神的公義來畫下我們的「底線」是那麼困難的一回事了。那是因為我們總是關心自己怎樣被得罪，更多於我們怎樣得罪了神。心理學家克萊布（Larry Crabb）說：「若是只聚焦於傷害，我們就會培養出索取的心靈。」從而便會對神說：「主啊，請您開始公平地行動吧，在我們敵人面前保護我。」不過，一旦放棄索取的態度，我們就必須無言的接受別人的任意對待，專心仰望神會按祂自己的方法去對付他們。我們真可以接受這種不加以反抗的態度嗎？

我的意思不是說受到嚴重的身體傷害或性侵犯的人不應該報警，我所提到的是別人無情的語言或行動給我們的心靈所造成的傷害。要是我們專注於別人對我們所犯的罪，我們就很難能夠不叛逆神，因為在考慮到我們怎樣受傷的時候，我們會要求一種合理的調整。但是如果我們專心思考我們怎樣傷害了神，以及怎樣以自我中心，以及拒絕相信祂的能力和愛而繼續傷害祂的時候，我們那叛逆的靈便會自行消除。這樣，別人對我們所做的，與我們對神所做的相比起來，便顯得微不足道了。我們的視角會因此得到糾正，我們更能夠看到事情普遍性的合理，以永恆的公義來作為「底線」。

Can you see now why it is so hard to draw the "bottom line" concerning God in terms of His justice? We feel much more passionate about how we have been sinned against than how we sin against Him. "To dwell only on the fact that we have been victimised," says psychologist Larry Crabb, "is to develop a demanding spirit." We tend then to say to God: "Come on Lord, start acting justly and defend me against my adversaries." Once we give up our demandingness, however, we are at the mercy of other people and have to go through life trusting God to deal with them on His terms. Can we handle that kind of vulnerability?

I am not suggesting, by the way, that people who experience serious physical or sexual abuse should not report it to the authorities. What I have in mind as I write is the kind of situation when someone wounds our spirit by an insensitive word or action. When we focus on the sins of others toward ourselves it becomes hard to give up our rebellion against God, because, in the light of how we are hurting, we see it as justified. But when we focus on how much we have hurt Him, and how we continue to hurt Him by our self-centredness and our refusal to trust His power and love, our rebellious spirit dissolves of its own accord. Then what others have done to us seems of much lesser significance than what we have done to Him. Our perspectives are corrected and we are more ready to recognise the universal rightness of things and make eternal justice the "bottom line".